
"The sister of one of Ted Bundy's victims told MVFR her family had achieved
closure by taking their focus off Bundy. ..."
"Families
who do not meet the expectations of society are often silenced by those
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Murder Victims' Families Are Not Served by Another Death
Pat BaneTexas, already the execution capital of the nation, seems bent on wiping
out the entire population of death row as quickly as possible.
We need
to be asking why.
Death penalty proponents have stopped arguing that executions
deter crime and create safer neighborhoods, that innocent people have not
been executed in the past and might be in the future, or even that it costs
less to put prisoners to death than to incarcerate them.
The old arguments
that once bolstered support for the death penalty have been discredited
and discarded by those who know the facts.
A new argument has emerged that
appeals to our deepest feelings of compassion.
It is that victims' families
need an execution to find peace after their tragic ordeal. Like the tired
arguments before it, the problem is that is simply is not true.
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When a
family receives the news that a loved one has been murdered, they are in
a state of shock.
Disbelief and denial give way to rage, and this is a very
normal reaction to killing. We should be angry whenever violence takes
a life.
We should ask why, and do what is necessary to prevent similar
crimes. Communities should respond to the needs of grieving families of
murder victims.
These families are at the lowest point of their lives and
need caring people to help them through the difficult events ahead:
identification
of the body of their family member
funeral arrangements and expenses
and help in dealing with the media, with a police investigation, and the
trial that follows.
All of these are in territories unfamiliar to most victims'
families.
Their primary need is to grieve as all families do when someone
they love has dies. Eventually, they must accept that life will never be
the same, be able to remember and honor the life of the one they have lost,
and to begin to live again.
Many victims' assistance and support programs instead of responding to the real needs of victims' families have chosen
to focus on punishment.
When they are desperately seeking hope that will
carry them through a very painful time, victims' families are offered another
death.
Many accept what they are offered, believing the lie that it will
make things better.
Others do not.
Murder Victims' Families for Reconciliation
is a national organization with thousands of members who reject the notion
that an execution will ease their pain or make their communities safer.
But how do proponents of the death penalty so concerned with justice for
victims respond to such families.
SueZann Bosler, an MVFR member in Florida,
saw her father murdered. She was stabbed and left for dead by a man who
robbed their home.
SueZann appeared as a witness for the prosecution, identifying
the offender at trial.
However, in preparation for a resentencing hearing,
the prosecutor is trying to discredit SueZann and prevent her from testifying
because of her opposition to the death penalty.
He is questioning her mental
competency so he can use her previous testimony without giving her an opportunity
to voice her convictions that it is wrong to kill.
When Pedro Medina caught
fire in Florida's electric chair recently, state officials were quick to
say that their sympathy was for the victim.
No one bothered to mention
that the daughter of the victim opposed Mr. Medina's execution.
Families
who do not meet the expectations of society are often silenced by those
who claim to work on the behalf of victims.
What about those families who
believe that the death of the perpetrator will somehow relieve that pain?
The sister of one of Ted Bundy's victims told MVFR her family had achieved
closure by taking their focus off Bundy.
"His execution reopened our
wounds, it was the worst thing that could have happened to us", she
stated.
Obviously, executions have left many families still unhealed because
the latest trend is to offer family members the opportunity to witness
the execution.
Some who have done so claim it did not provide what they
had expected, while others bitterly say that execution was not bad enough
because the prisoner didn't suffer as much as the victim did.
What will
we offer families next? Torture, or perhaps the right to push the button
or pull the switch?
Vengeance, like a drug, seems only to create a need
for more.
Some families will be haunted by the specter of watching someone
die in their names. Others will be left with a legacy of hatred they will
pass on to future generations.
Those who cling to support for the death
penalty need to examine their own hearts and minds to understand the real
reasons why. Then, in honesty, they can examine the validity of those reasons.
If they are concerned with victims, it's time to begin to put together
programs for victims that truly help them to heal without passing on pain
to the families of offenders.
All of us must support effective crime prevention
programs that identify the causes of violent crime and begin to eliminate
them.
But if we truly want a safer and more peaceful society, we must stop
eliminating human beings.
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